A lot of times when I tell people I’m a military spouse, I get 1 of 2 reactions. Either people are completely understanding and simply nod their head (typically fellow military wives) or they immediately go off on a tangent ending with..”So, how do you do it?!” like it’s some sort of one-armed circus trick.
I guess the real answer to this is…I just do. And so many other spouses around the world do, too. There is no secret formula or magic trick to make deployments shorter, training missions non-existent or late nights at the office avoidable. Like your spouse’s civilian job, some things are far beyond our control.
We do it, because we love our husbands and wives. We married them, after all! And when you tell me, “I could never do that..” I assure you, you could. While some spouses deal better than others, we all deal and survive. You never know what you’re capable of until doing it is your only real choice.
We do it, because the “coming home” is so sweet. So, so, so sweet.
If I’m being completely transparent here, this post came about after someone insinuated ALL military wives were dependent upon their husbands, which is why the military calls spouses “dependents”.
First of all, that person is a moron. Second, the word dependent is such an ugly misrepresentation of spouses everywhere, many of whom are the strongest and most independent people I know.
Have you ever been so annoyed by something like this?