on finding the balance

when I have extended periods of time with anyone, I always feel like it’s the perfect grounds for having really deep, meaningful conversation. When you’re driving to a volcano at 3 o’clock in the morning with your life partner–you’ve really got yourself some quality time.

Dane and I always seem to connect most during these quiet times (comparable only to the .5 seconds we get each night before our heads hit the pillow). over the course of our vacation, we talked a lot about what the future might hold for us–and what it might not, for that matter. we focused heavily on what would make both of us happy and leave both of us feeling fulfilled in all aspects–professionally and personally. and what conclusion did we come to?
Nothing definite–AND THAT’S OKAY.

I think sometimes we (me, especially), are so focused on the “what’s next?” that we find it hard to be in the here and now. I’m working exceptionally hard on finding this balance over the course of the next year or so we have left here in Hawaii–what is going to happen to my career? what will happen to Dane’s career? where will we move next? what if we go somewhere even further from home than hawaii?

The reality is that we don’t have control over these things and that sometimes even our best laid plans need tweaked.

I’d love to know…How do you keep your balance?