I don’t know how or when it started, or perhaps I simply came out of the womb this way–but I am fiercely independent. So much so that the hurdle of officially changing my name hurts me a little bit. Your name defines who you are for so long and then all of a sudden, you’re getting married and changing it to become an extension of someone else. Doesn’t that seem kind of jacked up Anyhow, I digress…
It’s OKAY To Ask For HelpBecause of this, asking for help or admitting I need help in any aspect of my life has always been a bit of a struggle. In fact, I am adamantly against it, even when I’m struggling to keep my head above water and everyone else sees that I’m, quite clearly, drowning.
|For what it’s worth, I’m a Capricorn.|
It takes A LOT for me to come to someone for help, admit defeat or allow someone to take over. That’s something as simple as realizing I really screwed up a new recipe to realizing I need help doing my taxes. I’ve alluded to it previously and maybe one day I’ll talk about it here, but we’ve had a lot going on in our life. So much so that I’ve had to admit “defeat” in some areas and ask for help. And you know what I’ve learned?
It’s not really defeat at all, actually. It’s strength. It takes a strong person to admit they can’t do it alone and it takes an even stronger person to talk about their weaknesses openly. I’m not quite at that “stronger” part yet, but I’ll get there. If anyone out there is like me and reading this (BLESS YOU!), don’t be afraid to need help. Don’t hesitate to ask for it and embrace it. We can’t always navigate this crazy life alone and we don’t have to–ever.